I have good reason to complain.
Last January I bought a brand new electric car, the Fisker Karma. Same one singer Neil Young and actor Leonardo Dicaprio have. Same one actor Ashton Kutcher drives on the TV series, Two and a Half Men.
I was excited to contribute to the environment in a positive way with a sports car that uses solar energy and electric power to get me around. I was one of the first in the country to own one. I was one of a handful in Texas alone. Plus the car looks stunning. People stop and stare. The car is just plain sexy.
But I had problems with it since day one.
Before I even received it, it was recalled. The battery had to have a different clamp to prevent possible fires. Once I did receive it, there were numerous little issues. In fact, I listed 17 of them to show the service department.
For example, sometimes when I was driving it, traveling at sixty miles an hour on a country road, the car would turn off. Off! It would reboot itself in the middle of the drive. The first time it happened was pretty scary, as I didn’t know if I would lose control of the car. I didn’t, but gee whiz, that wasn’t comfortable at all.
Other times the car would be playing some of my favorite music, when suddenly and for no apparent reason, it would switch to a Latino AM station. Go figure.
And then there were the times when the car ran out of stored electric energy and rolled over to the gas powered generator, which makes more electric juice. At those moments, at least for a few minutes, the climate control in the car malfunctioned and the inside cabin heated up. I live in Texas. You rarely want the car to heat up. And when you do, you want it to be your idea.
Then there were the fires.
Two Fiskers caught on fire. Fires aren’t pretty. I saw the Texas wildfires. I saw Nerissa’s car on fire in 2011. It’s more than unsettling.
The last Fisker fire triggered a recall of all the cars. Over 2,000 of them. Again, I took mine in, and was shocked to learn the company decided to not give loaner cars anymore. I paid $100,000 for the car, they are recalling it and inconveniencing me and everyone else, and they won’t give a rental car to ease my pain? It was appalling.
After the last trip to the San Antonio dealership, I called them and reported the car still had two issues. They took notes and said they’d call me back.
They didn’t.
And the following day I received a snail mail letter saying that same dealership was surrendering their Fisker franchise. I’d have to go elsewhere for my repairs and service.
What the – ?
Then, at the end of last October, 16 Fisker Karmas caught fire and burned to the ground after being submerged in saltwater from Hurricane Sandy. They were all at dock in New Jersey, not delivered to any customers yet, but still.
And then the battery maker for the Fisker went bankrupt, forcing Fisker to stop making cars for a while.
Good lord! Will this ever stop?
All during this adventure, I complained.
I complained to Fisker.
I complained to the dealership.
I complained to the sales person.
I complained to the people who would marvel at seeing the car when I drove it and ask about it.
I complained to my friends, family, complete strangers, and myself.
I was so frustrated and discouraged that I started looking at other cars, wanting to trade in my Fisker Karma for a car — any car — I wouldn’t complain about.
Taking my own medicine, I finally stated a new intention, to have the Fisker fixed right once and for all, or to get into a new car that I would love and be issue free.
I was just tired of all the complaining.
And then it dawned on me.
My complaining wasn’t helping.
At all.
When you add the fact that I am on the board of directors for A Complaint Free World, a movement to stop us all from complaining, I was more than embarrassed.
I decided to start looking for the good in the car. The entire matter might not change, and the car might not become foolproof or fireproof, but I’d feel better.
After all, my complaining wasn’t changing anything and it was making me feel terrible.
It was time for a change.
I would never complain about the car again.
It was a simple but firm decision.
No more complaints.
“Don’t find fault, find a remedy; anybody can complain.” – Henry Ford
I had to run some errands right after that awakening. I charged up the car and took off. Everywhere I went, people asked me, “Gorgeous! What is it?”
I’d tell them. But I left off the complaints. I just focused on the 50 miles I can get on a charge, and the 250 more miles I can get with the gas generator making more electric energy. Plus the solar panels on the roof added a couple hundred miles a year. Sweet.
After running all my errands that day, I came home and noticed that I had one mile left on the stored charge. That meant my entire morning of running from place to place never used a drop of gas. I was suddenly proud of my car. I started to think it’s pretty cool after all.
“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.” – Dale Carnegie
I contacted customer service at the Austin dealership to look at a couple final problems with the car. No one called me back for over a month.
What did that mean?
It meant my car didn’t need service!
After all, I’m not going to complain!
A friend of mine likes to complain. He defends his choice by saying, “Complaining adds color to life! I like it!”
But I also notice he rarely gets what he wants. And that might be the big insight.
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.” – William Arthur Ward
When we complain, we stay focused on the negative. As the Law of Attraction teaches, you tend to get more of what you focus on. As long as I saw the faults in my car, I attracted more of them to see.
Time to break that pattern.
After all, it’s all in your perception.
When you stop and rephrase your complaint as a positive intention, you morph your energies into a beacon of light, seeking out the positive.
When I praise my car rather than condemn it, the car seems to work better. And even if that weren’t true in some measurable way, I felt better driving it.
The thing is, my feeling better about the car actually seemed to make the car better.
The Fisker dealership in Austin finally called me back, and I took the car in for a software upgrade and service. They kept my car for two weeks, having to order parts and such.
When I went to pick up the car, it looked brand new. They had detailed it and made it look showroom ready. That was incredibly wonderful to see.
They also said every issue I had was resolved. That was a huge relief to hear.
I got in the car, drove it home, and didn’t notice any issues.
I had nothing to complain about.
At all.
Weeks have passed now and my car is working flawlessly.
I love my Fisker Karma!
It’s the best car ever!
What was the change here?
What really happened?
Lesson: My not complaining led to a situation where I have no complaints.
Think about it.
Complaining wasn’t helping and made me feel lousy; Complimenting what worked in my car made me feel great and seemed to help the car with its repairs.
The opposite of complaining is complimenting.
I know it sounds impossible and at least unlikely, but the moment I switched from complaining to complimenting my car, always keeping in mind my intention to drive a car that I love, it began to get better. Or maybe I got better first, and that influenced my car. Either way, it’s a win.
Before you complain, think of what you really want instead. Then speak your intention rather than your complaint. That simple step will cause you to move in a new and more positive direction. Focusing on complaints keeps you stuck in that lower energy; focusing on your intentions moves you into a higher energy. No one is asking you to overlook poor service or to deny your disappointment, but to instead focus on the service and outcome you actually want. There’s a huge difference in how you feel and in the results you get.
This post is a reminder to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.
Here’s the secret:
That’s the new formula for happy results.
Now don’t complain about it, either. 🙂
Ao Akua,
joe
PS — Just this morning I got in my car and it wouldn’t start. I sat there wondering what to do. I didn’t complain. Instead, I stated that I prefer the car start and run. I called Fisker roadside assistance. A friendly woman said she’d be glad to call a tow truck for me, but suggested I try rebooting the car first. She said it’s a big computer. Sometimes you have to re-boot it. She told me how to do it. I did. The car then started right up. No problem. All is well. And I didn’t complain once. 🙂
What would you love to see occur in 2013?
What would be cool for you to attract?
What do you really want?
Here’s your chance to help it happen.
Setting a goal “calls forth” virtually everything you need to achieve and attract that goal.
Just a few months ago I felt dead when it came to music. After recording four albums, one of them a hands down bestseller, all of them seen in Rolling Stone magazine, I didn’t feel connected to any more music. I wanted to quit.
Yet after I set a new goal, with the help of Daniel Barrett and his Rubicon artist program, new songs came forth.
A dozen of them.
Good ones.
Great ones.
Surprising ones.
Where were they before the goal?
The goal triggered the songs. The goal “called forth” the songs.
I then went into the studio — with drummer Joe Vitale, bass player Glenn Fukunaga, guitar player and producer Daniel Barrett — and created ten amazing tracks. I’m in awe of what we recorded. The soft songs were kissed by angels. The rockers raised the dead.
Yet there were no songs before the goal!
I recall having dinner with Rhonda Byrne, the person behind the hit movie The Secret. I asked her if she felt she created or attracted the movie idea. She thought for a long time and said, “I called it forth.”
“Calling forth” your outcome is what happens when you set a clear goal and have no attachment to how or when it arrives.
Today is your chance to “call forth” what you want for 2013.
It all begins with a clear goal.
Goals that are without desperation are easier to attract. Desperation is the energy of a negative belief pushing the goal away. You want a goal that delights you, even if you have no idea how you will attract it, or when.
Goals are how you start a fire within yourself. You might be feeling “blah” and have no desire for much of anything but living in the moment and vegging. But let an inspired idea become a goal and suddenly you ignite the pilot light in your soul. Now you have direction, purpose, and energy. The goal triggers the release of new powers, and even begins to attract opportunities and more to bring the goal into reality.
Ask, “What would be really cool to attract in this new year?’
Forget why or how. Let your unconscious mind work with “all that is” to arrange it to happen.
All you need to do today is choose your goal.
What’s yours?
Ao Akua,
joe
PS — Happy New Year!
Well, December 21st came and went overseas and yet we’re still here.
Now what?
I hope surviving the “end of the world” taught you not to listen to the paranoia of the media and the masses.
Life is to be lived, not feared.
That said, I think it’s time you took a stand for your life and did something big and bold.
Go sign up for a consultation about my Miracles Coaching program.
Doesn’t cost anything to learn about it.
You can see how it has been helping people for years by reviewing all the letters at — http://www.miraclescoachingproof.com
To be blunt, if you don’t make changes now, your next year will be pretty much the same as this last one.
That may be acceptable, but we both know you can do better.
All you need is a little help.
I think you’re ready for it.
Go to — http://www.miraclescoachingproof.com
Ao Akua,
joe
PS — Relax. The Miracles Coaches will be on holiday until after the first of the new year. So you can ask for a free consult today and muster the courage to talk about your new life in 2013. See how easy this is? 🙂 Go to http://www.miraclescoaching.com
I sent the below request to my email list yesterday, and posted it on my Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/drjoevitale as well. So many people wanted to share it that I decided to post it here, too. Please stop for a moment and send love. Thank you. – joe
Friday’s shooting in Connecticut left 28 people dead, most of them children. The world is shocked and saddened. People are confused and upset. I am, too.
Who can blame us? It’s an event as disturbing as any can get.
I also know you need to be strong in times of trouble. You need to come from inner strength and be able to help those in need. You need to choose faith over fear.
With that in mind, I am requesting your help. It’s a small request, and does not involve any money.
Let me explain…
Back in 2005 I asked you to help me slow down Hurricane Rita, which was aimed at Texas right after Katrina devastated New Orleans. As a result, Rita dropped from a Category 5 to a Category 3. It didn’t even rain in my area, which was under such threat that most of the area had evacuated.
Later, I asked you to help clean up the oil disaster in the Gulf. Shortly after my email, things began to get better.
A year ago from this past summer I asked you to help stop the Texas wildfires, which had destroyed over 1,000 homes. Within minutes of my email, it began to rain in some areas. It actually down poured over my house. The fires all went out.
A year ago, I asked you to help my dying and bedridden mother. Within a week she was crawling out of her bed, unassisted, getting into her wheelchair, and asking to watch TV. I saw her last weekend. She wanted to sit and talk. It was miraculous to see.
Obviously, group intention works.
When you hold an intention — and others on this email list or those reading this blog do so, too — we tend to get the results we want.
I’m writing to ask you for your help again.
Here’s the story —
The people involved with the recent event — which includes you and me and everyone affected by it — need support. They didn’t attract this event. WE did.
If you are feeling for them, you are also responsible for them. We have a shared unconscious program with them. “Data” in ho’oponopono/Zero Limits terms.
You aren’t to blame, but you do have some healing work to do. So do I. We can do it with love.
Twenty-three scientific studies have shown that when groups of people meditate with the same positive intention, they were able to measure positive results in the world around them.
Even if you don’t believe sitting quietly and thinking of well being for these parents and relatives will actually help them, what will it hurt you to settle down for a minute and relax?
That’s all I’m asking you to do.
Do whatever meditation or technique you know to reach that inner place of serenity. Use ho’oponopono/Zero Limits or Tapping/EFT, or anything else you know of or can think of.
Inner peace is the answer to outer peace.
Again, inner peace is the answer to outer peace.
It begins with you and me.
The more you can find your inner center of love, and feel peace inside, the more you will radiate that well being to the world, touching everyone.
And all it takes is you focusing and sending love.
Just imagine inner serenity…in whatever way you can get there….and let that love radiate out to the world…
Why not do it right now?
Ao Akua,
Joe
PS — If you feel inspired to do so, please share this request with your family and friends.
I wasn’t going to mention it but several people — especially fans in Russia, Poland, Italy and Peru — have asked me about the “end of the world” later this month, scheduled for December 21st. Take it or leave it, here’s what I think:
Obviously, I believe there’s a future ahead of us.
But how can I think that when the Mayans allegedly said December 21st is “game over” day?
Back in the late 1990s, I became dismayed when people I respected began to worry about Y2K, the computer malfunction that was going to cause Armageddon, or at least a few bad nights. I knew at the time the fear was ridiculous.
How did I know? I didn’t. Not in any logical way. But nothing about it made sense. It sounded like yet another doomsday prediction, created and passed along by people being victims to their own mind’s paranoia.
Of course, Y2K came and went, and we’re still here.
Throughout history there have been predictions about the end of the world.
None of them have ever occurred.
None.
For example, here are a few non-religious ones (the religious doomsday predictions would take forever to list, which seems rather ironic, as they don’t claim we have forever) –
Meteorologist Albert Porta predicted the conjunction of 6 planets would generate a magnetic current that would cause the sun to explode and engulf the earth on December 19, 1919.
Didn’t happen.
British theologian and mathematician William Whitson predicted a great flood similar to Noah’s for October 13, 1736.
Didn’t happen.
The Hermetic Order of the Golden Dawn predicted the end of the world in 2010.
Didn’t happen.
Even the Mayans didn’t have a track record of success.
According to the book, History’s Worst Predictions, by Eric Chaline —
“The truth is that even by the standards of ancient peoples, the Maya were technologically backward. They lacked the wheel, the arch, the plough and domesticated animals; they fought each other and ruined their environment. Did the Maya foresee their own collapse in the ninth century or the Spanish invasion in the 16th? Or have cataclysmic events happened on key dates in their future-oriented calendar? No.”
And if you want even harder evidence about the “end of the world” later this month, here’s what NASA says on their official website:
“For any claims of disaster or dramatic changes in 2012, where is the science? Where is the evidence? There is none, and for all the fictional assertions, whether they are made in books, movies, documentaries or over the Internet, we cannot change that simple fact. There is no credible evidence for any of the assertions made in support of unusual events taking place in December 2012.”
So, what is the logical and intuitive best guess for December 21st?
It’ll be a day like any other day.
But let’s not give up our fear just yet. Maybe we can learn something here.
Did the Mayans have something else to tell us about the December 21st date?
According to some interpretations of Mayan prophesy, December 21st will mark the end of “the dark cycle and the start of the Cycle of Light:” an era of new thought that incorporates a blending of beliefs from different cultures.
Doesn’t sound like the end of the world to me at all.
But the truth is, I doubt even the “light cycle” will come into being.
Why not?
Because it’s already here.
Thinking there is a before and after is what the mind likes to create to structure life experience. But life isn’t black and white. It’s more like a rainbow. And it’s all happening at once, right now, whether you think it is or not.
Right now someone is feeling hate….Right now someone is feeling love….Right now someone is feeling like a victim…Right now someone is becoming enlightened…
And so it goes.
The Dark is here. So is the Light.
It’ll be the same on December 21st.
Welcome to Planet Earth.
Our human nature is such that we let our minds chase us up trees and down streets, even when nothing is chasing us. That’s the nature of our minds. It is programmed to look for danger, then to protect us from it. The thing is, it perceives danger in any unknown. The future is unknown. So of course it will fear it.
The Mayans didn’t predict the end of the world. Not at all. They didn’t really predict anything. As one friend said, they simply stopped making calendars. That’s it. There is no more significance to the date than that.
None.
Here’s my disclaimer and advice:
Should December 21st come around and you and I are gone, then you won’t know the fear-based prediction was right and my faith-based one was wrong. We’ll be dead. Curtain down. Music over. Exit vaporized.
On the other hand, if December 21st comes around and you haven’t paid your rent or stocked your frig, thinking you wouldn’t need to, you may find yourself on the streets. That’s a far harsher reality than fearing the future. Been there. Done that.
You best assume the world will continue and proceed as usual, except with more attention to your intuition and your passion, as it is your spiritual compass to better times.
If nothing else, use all this focus on “end times” as a time to awaken. Notice your thoughts, your mindset, your habits, and your fears, and focus on how you would like things to be. Here’s your chance to wake up.
Finally, here’s my bottom line thought on all this:
It seems to me that doomsday predictors aren’t very bright. The odds are stacked against them. None of them have ever come true. Ever. It’d be far wiser to predict the world continuing. So that’s my prediction: The world will generally continue as it is, slowly getting better and better, with a nice upward curve reflecting its spiritual growth. I also predict the sun will shine and the moon will rise. My predictions are never wrong, either. I’m so psychic, I know you’re reading this. So there.
I suggest you get up and do the thing you would do if you were full of power and faith, and believed in tomorrow. And do it today. Right now.
See you later this month.
And next.
Ao Akua,
Joe
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