Dr. Joe Vitale’s Blog

Have you ever noticed a reoccurring theme in someone’s life?

Maybe even yours?

It’s the same issue again and again, maybe with different characters playing it out, but it’s always the same problem at heart.

Why is it always the same problem? 

For example, for most of my life I had problems with money.

I was homeless for a while, lived in virtual poverty for years, declared bankruptcy once, went to court and was fined for bad checks I had written, was constantly in debt and always desperate for money.

I had that same problem for most of my adult life.

Beliefs like these fueled it — though I was unconscious of them at the time — I don’t deserve money, money is bad, money is not spiritual, rich people are greedy, I’ll never succeed, I’m not good enough, business is bad, there’s not enough, etc. 

So the life pattern of having money problems surfaced again and again, with my car breaking down, accidents, illness, unforeseen emergencies, etc.

I had the same problem with losing weight.

I spent most of my life, from childhood on, fighting with obesity.

The operating beliefs behind that reoccurring problem — again, most of which were unconscious to me — were diets don’t work, I hate exercise, healthy foods taste like crap, my DNA is wrong, I’m destined to be fat, fat people are safe, fat people are happier, nobody likes me anyway, etc.

I had the best of good intentions for wanting to be healthy and wealthy, but the unconscious counter-intentions stopped them from being manifested.

And that pattern continued until I unravelled the beliefs and broke free.

This is true for all of us.

Even you.

If you look at your life with an objective eye (knowing that is not fully possible but go with me on this), you’ll see patterns.

Maybe it’s always a relationship issue…or health issue…or money issue…or work issue….or — you name it.

For example, I discovered a pattern in myself that I had been unaware of until last weekend.

Three people I know (or thought I knew), one of whom has been a dear family friend for over a decade, came out with a book slamming The Secret, with me in it, and none of them shared the book with me, or even told me when it came out.

I had to stumble upon it six months after the fact.

I was more upset that none of these friends had the decency to share their project with me, than that they wrote it.*

I was sick for several days.

I was literally ill.

I had a fever, weakness, aching joints, coughing fits, etc.

Why?

Every time something happens, there is meaning behind it. When you stop and reflect, you can decode the operating beliefs that brought it about.

In my case I caught a bug, and that bug was named betrayal.

As I looked back, I saw that “betrayal” had been a pattern in my life, just as money issues and obesity once were.

Because of hidden operating beliefs, the pattern came into reality one more time. If you’ve read The Attractor Factor, you know the nightmarish betrayal explained at the end of that book. I’m no stranger to it.

Obviously, I had attracted my experience.

This post isn’t about betrayal, it’s about patterns.

Your patterns.

And mine.

But here’s the good news: once you learn the lesson from the pattern, you no longer need the pattern.

You can actually stop the patterns!

I’ve done it with money.

I’ve learned that the more money I make, the more I can help myself and my world.

Whether it’s a Panoz exotic sports car or a $15,000 therapy machine for a child I don’t know, I’m now able to make the choice and write the check.

It’s a beautiful place to be.

I’ve done it with obesity.

I’ve lost 80 pounds and been in seven fitness contests.

The obesity pattern is history, too.

Now that I’m aware of the old betrayal pattern, I can let it go, as well.

Sometimes all you need is the awareness that you attracted what you got due to your beliefs.

Sometimes you can do EFT on a belief and it will vanish like the wind.

Sometimes you have to sit down and consciously search and find your beliefs, and then choose to let them go as you insert new ones in their place.

And sometimes you have to hire a Miracles Coach to help you climb out of the mental quicksand.

The point, again, is that you and I are co-creating our reality with our beliefs.

If you’ve got a reoccurring pattern in your life, it’s not your fault and it’s not anyone’s else’s fault. It’s simply mental software. It’s a program. You can rewrite it.

That’s how you begin new, healthier, happier patterns.

And you can begin it right now.

Ao Akua,

Joe
www.mrfire.com

PS — Another useful tool for changing patterns is the Subliminal Manifestation DVD set that Mark Ryan and I created. These are topic specific, such as on love and forgiveness, fear, or increasing sales. Take a look.

* What do I think of their book? Thank you for asking. Their book is poorly written, quickly thrown together, packed with emotional ranting, spiced with glaring inaccuracies, and motivated by a desire to capitalize on the very thing they were criticizing. It’s a book designed to take away hope under the guise of being protective. But that’s just my opinion. 🙂 Again, I don’t mind that they wrote the book; I object that they didn’t let me see it in progress, or at the very least share it with me after its publication. As a friend I feel it would have been the decent (read friendly) thing to do. Or maybe that’s just me. If you want to read a rational and readable examination of Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret, get pastor Ed Gungor’s There Is More To The Secret. He talks about God in the same way I talk about the Divine in Zero Limits. Gungor’s book finds some fault with The Secret, but he explains his position in a level headed, well written way. Even disagreement can be an art done with love. Meanwhile, I just keep cleaning, cleaning, cleaning.

I’ve been asked to be in several movies recently. I’ve been filmed for three, all due out later this year. But I couldn’t give a nod to all of them. Here’s one I may regret not being in:  www.nextinternetmillionaire.com 

The Canine Concert — the promotional event where a band played rock music at a sound level only dogs could hear — is now available on DVD.

This is the entire event – before, during, and after – documenting how such an outrageous publicity stunt took place, and why.

It was all created to promote my book on P.T. Barnum, There’s A Customer Born Every Minute.

It’s hilarious, informative, educational, and entertaining.

You’ll love it.

Even if you’re not a dog.

See www.createspace.com/Store/ShowEStore.jsp?id=227296 

Long time friend and master belief clearer Mandy Evans is leading one last “BREAKOUT From Limiting Beliefs” weekend seminar in Palm Springs, CA October 19-21. The link for registration and information is www.mandyevans.com/resources3.html 

Mandy is one of my favorite people in the entire world, and a magical person at helping you get past limiting beliefs. I mentioned her in my book, The Attractor Factor. I wrote the foreword to her book, Emotional Options. Her main site is www.mandyevans.com Check it out.

The other night Pat O’Bryan picked me up for a play day in San Antonio. We both needed a break from our work and we both longed for a short trip to one of our favorite cities.

Our first stop was Hovey Motor Cars, where I found Francine last year, and where we quickly relearned a marketing lesson.

We didn’t stop because I wanted to attract a new car, but because Pat was curious.

Hovey had another Panoz exotic sports car on their lot. Pat knows how much I love Francine, my 2005 Panoz Esperante GTLM, so he wanted to try a Panoz on for size.

He climbed into Amanda (all Panoz cars are given names upon birth) and quickly discovered that his 6’3″ frame didn’t fit in it — at least not if he wanted to put the convertible top up. Just take a look…

   Pat and I agreed that there needs to be a sports car for the big and tall man.

After all, there are big and tall men clothing stores, so why not big and tall men sports cars?

This is how you spot money-making ideas.

This is what Donny Deutsch www.cnbc.com/id/15838512/ is always trying to tell you on his fantastic CNBC television show, The Big Idea (which you should watch religiously).

This is also what my coaches teach people in the Joe Vitale Executive Mentoring Program.

Whenever you experience something negative and say, “I wish they would fix that” or “I wish someone would do something about that”, you are announcing the discovery of a money-making opportunity.

As Donny would say, “You could make millions!” 

Pat and I aren’t interested in building sports cars for big guys, but I think someone should. In fact, I’ll be telling the Panoz family about this. Maybe they can do something about it.

The lesson for you is to be alert to those times when you wish things would change.

Change them and you just might get rich.

That’s how I came up with the idea for Fit-a-Rita.

I was in a fitness contest and wanted a healthy margarita, as the usual ones are loaded with sugar and add up to 200 to 600 calories each.

My complaint/observation that I needed a healthy margarita mix led to the creation of Fit-a-Rita, the world’s first zero sugar, zero carbs, only six calories a serving healthy margarita.

And right now Willie Nelson is trying one, as I sent him a few packets via a mutual friend.

Opportunities are everywhere.

Stay alert.

Seize the moment.

As I told Pat last night over margaritas at Mi Tierra in San Antonio, the secret to success is to use your ears and do what you fear and get off your rear.

He said it sounded like the beginning of a song.

Where’s that new guitar of mine, anyway?

Ao Akua,

Joe
www.mrfire.com

PS – In the top picture Pat is wondering how to smoke the three-layered cigar I gave him. It’s a hand-made Culebra Especial.  The unusual shape of this 3-in-1 cigar was invented in the early 1800s. Cigar rollers were given the tri-bundled cigar at the beginning of their shift, to savor throughout the day. Some unrolled the Culebra (which means “snake”) to smoke each cigar separately; others smoked all three at the same time. Not knowing the “correct” way to smoke the Culebra, Pat smoked his all at once. He said, “It makes me giggle.” I guess he prefers big man cigars, too.