I just interviewed Will Bowen, author of the best book of 2007, A Complaint Free World, for my Hypnotic Gold members.
The interview was fantastic, as I expected it to be, but the ending really blew me away.
That’s when I spontaneously asked Will what Oprah had to say about him, his book, and his movement.
He then told me the most amazing thing:
“Between takes Oprah leaned over to me and said, ‘I have nothing to complain about’.
“At first I thought she meant she had nothing to complain about because she’s Oprah and life is good.
“But we talked and I learned that her life is so great because she doesn’t complain to begin with. She always focuses on what she wants. Her not complaining created the Oprah we see.”
I love this story.
I love how it illustrates that you don’t get to a place of comfort and then stop complaining; you instead stop complaining right now and from here notice, create, and attract your comfort.
Most of us want to get there and then start.
It’s similar to people who want to get rich before they start giving money away.
That’s not how the universe seems to work.
You don’t wait.
You start now.
Start focusing on what you want and only on what you want.
Start giving money away and continue to give money away.
It sure works for Oprah.
And Will.
And me.
Ao Akua,
Joe
www.mrfire.com
PS — You attract what you expect. That’s what my television show will be about. I haven’t started promoting it yet, but you can vote for the show right now at www.expectmiraclestv.com You’ll be one of the very first to hear about it by going to that site right now.
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This is exactly what I needed to hear…right NOW or at least be reminded. It might sound like it has been said before but I realized how important it is to hear it again and again. Because it is so easy to forget what we have and what we desire and instead fall into victim mode and complaints.
Thanks a lot Joe,
Hossein
I totally agree with this concept. Appreciate what you have in life,don’t dwell on what you do not have.:razz:
Synchronicity is an amazing thing. Yesterday (today is Tuesday in Australia) the Oprah featuring Will Bowen aired here. I was mesmerized, and cheering on, wanting to live such an idyllic lifestyle. I agreed and applauded in appreciation everything that was being said.
However much later it also got me thinking much like this post here. Is there a place for complaining or better still what is the distinction between a complaint or any of its antonyms such as praise and compliment. Take Rosa Parks as an example. The dictionary will tell us that a complaint is the expression of dissatisfaction. I think when it comes to issues like human rights we have a lot to be grateful for to those that have taken it upon themselves to express their dissatisfaction.
I guess what I am trying to get my brain around is that not all complaints are bad, there needs to be just the right balance. I am sure when Oprah has to defend herself whether against the Texas Cattle Feeders of Amarillo or the scandal in her Leadership Academy expression of dissatisfaction will surely surface which can be seen as complaints, but in a positive light. Life is not about extremes, but rather balance.
Brian, Will talks about all that, including Rosa Parks, in his book. You might read it. It’s excellent and will answer your questions.
joe
Absolutely wonderful, It’s Karma you get what you put out. It’s easy to sit back and moan and groan about what is going wrong in your life, but it is up to you to get up and do something about it like James D. Brausch said “You don’t need it. You can’t spend it all anyway so why bother. What you do need is enough money to do anything you want. Money is not a problem. I can hear you whining from here.” Just absolutely great I love it!
“A Complaint Free World” is the current read in the book circle I host.
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Joe, thanks for the heads-up. Good to know that I am in tune with the concept. I look forward to reading more on the topic. Thanks again.
Although the language of complaint can help us identify values/wants that are not being fully manifested in physical form, it is also an indication of feeling powerless. Powerlessness, whether real or illusionary, is not the best space for conscious creation – it pulls our vibration towards the unwanted.
So, catch it, forgive it, love it and in time, seeing the world through eyes of gratitude truly does become habitual!
Namaste, Anita
Brilliant, just brilliant. Thanks for sharing this mind-opening concept in such a concrete way. It’s what I believe and teach, but it sure does help to hear it again. You build your life from the inside out!
Thanks for sharing your wisdom!
Buz
In November I discovered Will and wrote about him and my personal challenge on my Blog http://moniquedicarlo.blogspot.com/
According to an “expert” we need to complain in order to be able to deal with life, because life is hard. Oh really? 🙄
I think some people are addicted to the feeling (chemicals?) complaining produces.
And some people use it as the source of their inspiration to work towards their goal (from lack to abundance).
I didn’t make the 21 days yet, but I adapted a similar attitude as Oprah because it is a waste of energy to complain and there is a gift in any experience!
Love, Monique
PS: The boys at work were impressed with the beautiful leather bags you recommended, thanks Joe!
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Fantastic post Joe
I only hope my wife will take some heed of it!
Thanks
Nat
Great article and always a timely reminder to all of us.When we complain we act like victims, when we take action instead – we are in our power. Complaining is simply an excuse to feel sorry for yourself, and if a person is addicted to it, they will make sure to create situations where they have “a reason” to complain about something. Oprah is absolutely right. Act! Change the situation or accept it, but accept is without resentment or resignation. Complaining is counter productive and a good way to stay miserable. It changes nothing except how you feel about yourself. Victims are never happy, and how can they be? Things always “happen to them”. Responsibility = power. Complaining is a choice to give up your power to circumstances and people. A very weak position. Also – a rather boring one. Acknowledge it, don’t make yourslef wrong, instead -forgive yourslelf – and take your power back!
Voted and subscribed, Joe. 🙂
Joe,
Isn’t it ironic how everything comes back to the principles you discussed in “The Attractor Factor”?
It blows me away how it works…There are times when I want to disect how it works. There are other times when I don’t care. Regardless, I can tell you that I love the results!
Thanks Joe…See, maybe the world is ready for a TV show with you!
Sam P.
Great blog post – very simple, profound, and powerful advice
I agree with Oprah, nothing good comes from dwelling on bad stuff. I am trying to only remain positive and full of love. Since I’ve started noticing my moods, and cleaning, great things have started to happen. Like you said, always look for the silver lining! Thanks helping me in my life quest! 🙂
Hi Dr. Joe Vitale i’m a boy from korea and 18 years old.
i saw you in “the secret” book and video.
could i talk with you? it’s hard to overcome alone.
sorry my english. thank you.
bye.
Lee
I love this book!
I have a fun project in mind with a grammar school, and “A Complaint Free World”. I’ll keep all posted.
I love Oprah’s secret!
Onward!
-Jon Stetson
Greeting
Agree with brian, synchronicity is an amazing thing :smile:.
I just listening an audio product from Dr. Robert Anthony, and i became a fan of him after read Joe’s recommendation :smile:.
Dr. Robert Anthony also said the same thing…
Be grateful now. be happy now. find little things in our live that we can be grateful.
and Start focus on what you want instead of what You don’t want.
have a mental state of already have it. and be grateful and happy about it.
If you complain, you focus on what You don’t want..
There are a lot of things in the words that is not in synch with harmony, such as corruption, violence, etc.
To face it, we must not face it with “complaining” mentality, but out of love and care.
Greeting Lee, You’re not alone.. the Great is with You, always…
as usual, your blog expand my understanding. thanks a lot Joe
Best Regards and Joy
Ziqry
http://www.123toattractwealth.com
😀 brilliant 😀
thank you
Joe, I look forward to everyone of your blogposts. This one especially hit home. Be happy now, stop complaining now and then you can enjoy now. Much like the Secret taught us, if we are always focused on “someday, when I’m…fill in the blank”, I’l be…happy, content, joyful…well, that day just never seems to come soon enough. However, if we can choose to ‘Be’ that now, well then quite literally you can ‘have it now’. I love it!! I’ll add the book to my list. Thanks for the review and thanks for all you give to make our lives brighter each day. You are the best.
Raleigh
http://www.onlinebusinessdream.com
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I have alwasy thought that truth should be simple! And here is another reminder!
Love, Jeannie
I would love to hear your reply to “whats wrong with that” in this “complaining is healthy” video:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540/vp/17469444#17469444
Hi Catherine. I went to the site but didn’t see any video there. Well, I’m not complaining. 🙂 Anyway, I think you want Will Bowen’s comments, not mine. He wrote the book and started the movement.
joe