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Have you ever said – or heard someone say – “It is what it is”?

I’ve been hearing it a lot, too.

Every time I do, I cringe.

Something about the statement just doesn’t feel right.

I couldn’t put my finger on it at first.

Then it hit me.

“It is what it is” is a statement of victim-hood.

It comes from a mind prepared to roll over and accept the circumstances they are in as final.

It’s a statement of powerlessness.

I was still considering the implications of the wimpy “It is what it is” line when I stumbled across a Facebook video by John Spencer Ellis.

I know John from years ago, when he put me in his movie, The Compass.

With John Spencer Ellis during filming of "The Compass" several years ago

John articulated what I hadn’t yet realized: the line “It is what it is” is a declaration of surrender.

John urged you and I to stop saying it.

Now that I have more clarity around the line, I totally agree.

It is one of the wimpiest statements of all time.

Instead of saying “It is what it is,” say “It is what it is for the moment and I am doing something about it!” and then speak what you want, not what you are giving in to, and act to make your new intention a new reality.

Surrendering is a high spiritual act when you are surrendering to your highest ideals; it’s a poor act of victim mentality when you surrender to circumstances you honestly don’t like.

I’ll repeat that:

Surrendering is a high spiritual act when you are surrendering to your highest ideals; it’s a poor act of victim mentality when you surrender to circumstances you honestly don’t like.

So many of us deceive ourselves with statements that at first glance look innocent — like “It is what it is” — instead of looking deeper to find what hides behind the statement.

I’m not suggesting that you deny reality or the facts you may be facing, but I am suggesting that accepting facts as the final verdict is a poor move.

Think of the movie The Untouchables.

When actor Sean Connery turns to Kevin Costner and says, “And what are you prepared to do now?”

In that movie, Connery’s character is suggesting they bend the rules in order to get the bad guy.

I’m not suggesting you do anything illegal or unethical, but I am urging you to “bend the rules” or find a way around the rules so you can achieve the outcome you want.

You have this choice in every moment.

The moment could be one where you accept the consequences already in play as final, and you shrug and say “It is what it is” or it could be one where you are aware of the moment but declare, “I am doing something about this to change it!”

You can choose to give up to the flow in place.

Or you can choose to redirect the flow.

It’s important to understand the difference between self-awareness and self-deception.

Awareness of the moment means you understand the reality of what you are facing and take new actions to go in a new direction.

Deception is when you understand the reality of what you are facing and think you can’t do anything to change it.

Big difference.

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Consider –

I’ve been reading the book, Not Impossible by Mick Ebeling.

It’s the story of a man who learns to say YES! to the biggest challenges brought to him, even the “impossible” ones, and then scrambles to figure out a way to make what he just promised come into reality.

He’s famous for creating artificial limbs for war victims out of 3-D printers.

He could have said “It is what it is” and went about his life.

Instead he said the equivalent of, “It is what it is and I am doing something to change it!”

And he did.

The point here is to be aware of the statements you speak and how you feel when you say them.

Do they empower you or weaken you?

You want to be empowered, so you can live out your mission and make a difference.

After all, is anything really impossible?

Ao Akua,

joe

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