Imagine: It’s Valentine’s Day and you’re all alone.
No candy. No cards. No kisses.
You’re about to raid the frig.
Or you already did.
What do you do now?
Here are some ideas:
Go buy some chocolate for yourself.
Go buy yourself a card and mail it to yourself.
Go to the mirror and kiss your reflection.
Go to itunes and find the wackiest dance music you can find and dance to it.
Go to your closest and find clothes that make you feel like a million bucks and put them on.
Go to your high school yearbook and look online for your old classmates.
Go to the zoo and make faces at all the animals.
Go get a children’s book and read it.
Go play a game of chess against yourself.
Go get a comedy CD or DVD and watch it.
Go call someone and ask if they can be your Valentine.
Go get a cat or dog or parrot and spoil them.
Go to the gym and have an intense workout.
Go play a musical instrument.
Go write a poem or song and then translate it into a language you don’t know using free online software.
Go dress up like a clown and walk the neighborhood.
Go to a senior center, hospital, or homeless shelter and focus on the well being of one person there.
Go make a list of things people can do when they are desperate and alone on Valentine’s Day, and then post it on your blog.
Finally, go to bed early, knowing that the day will be over soon and the sun will shine again.
Love awaits.
Ao Akua,
Joe
www.mrfire.com
PS — While you are celebrating Valentine’s Day alone or with a partner, Nerissa and I will be attending a funeral. While the word “fun” is in the word “funeral,” it’s usually not. The reminder is to enjoy your life right now, with or without anyone else. Right now is the greatest gift of all. Your life is a blessing. Enjoy it.
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Great list of options for us lonley people! As always Joe – Great Post!
Awesome. I’d add appreciating other types of love. Could be your friends, your parents, your nieces/nephews/kids. And focus on giving.
Joe:
Thanks for the Valentine suggestions…I needed them today. My husband passed away a few months ago at the age of 48. I didn’t know how I was going to celebrate this day but I think I’ll….Dress up like a clown and walk the neighborhood. Not really…but the thought made me smile.
Happy Valentine’s Day
My suggestion: First of all – know you are not alone! Nope, not ever, not for a minute, not even on Valentine’s Day. Alone = all one. We are all connected!
Second – go look in the mirror and say, “I love you. (Insert your name), I love you!” Do it with great enthusiasm and then go spread that love to anyone who you know needs a little right now. Come on, you know who I’m talking about.
Joe and Nerissa, I am sorry for your loss. Funerals are sad – celebrations of life aren’t. I’m sorry. Forgive me. I love you.
Alone? I have never felt “alone”. I was surprised at the thought of feeling “alone”. I had to wonder at the reason I have never felt alone. Divorced for 14 years raising my 4 children, then to remarry only to have my husband die unexpectedly almost a year ago…. still…. I have never felt alone….
Then it dawns on me… from a very early age I have always believed that guardian angles are all around me… protecting me and watching out for me. So why would I… someone who is truly protected by the universal energy feel alone? I am surrounded by love. I am never alone.
I helped arrange a Valentine pot luck at work today. I am bringing things so others can make valentines for their loved ones. And at the end of the day… like most days… I will treat myself to a nice warm relaxing bubble bath! That is what I am doing!
May your days be filled with sunshine and smiles!
mary
Buhl, Idaho
Thanks Joe! It’s interesting though, I have never bought into holidays and the forced emotions that go with them. I celebrate love everyday, I don’t really need Valentine’s day to motivate me, I feel the same about Christmas, and Thanksgiving. I don’t need a specific day to be thankful, I am thankful all year long, and I don’t need Christmas to think about my family and friends, and give gifts … again, I do this all year. The only special days I do celebrate are people’s birhtday’s, I want to celebrate with them their special day that is all about them. Plus, I’m thankful for the birth of each of my friends, and thankful they are in my life!
Great list of suggestions for this valentine!! There are a lot more people than we think that spend this day alone.
Focus on what you DO have instead on what you DON’T have. Don’t focus on the lack of friends or lover, focus on the love you DO have, even if it’s just your dog or cat that loves you. And they do.
Great post Joe
Thanks Joe,
This is good. I’m spending Valentines alone because my husband is working in the US at the moment, so I’m a little bummed. So I’m going to clean…..not the house but myself!! That makes me happy.
As Joe & Narissa head off to remember the blessings of a life lived, I’ll head off to attend a bedside in Hospice, to help someone in their end-of-days to breathe in the essence of their memories of their ‘movie’, and hopefully look forward to the next great journey of LOVE ~ That is all there is after all…before, during, and next…LOVE.
So love well, dear friends, it’s always a thirsty day at the eternal well of love!
Joy and Blessings to all…oh yeah, love is a CHOICE! That Rocks!
I celebrate this day as my day of freedom. In 1980 my divorce became final and an end to an abusive marriage was over — yippee! I love myself and I celebrate this day as the beginning of a new me and life.
My Dearest Joe,
Thinking about Maui this morning … Nerissa, Suzanne and all the delightful people you are surrounded with.
I am so grateful for that time with you guys! It’s awesome that there is a whole day dedicated to love… Le’ts make it a week I say, or a year… I know I live my life full of love and hapiness (except now and again.. It happens to the best of us ;-x)
Anyway… I wish you and the whole crew a FABULOUS Valentines day….
Love you guys! Let’s do Maui again SOON!
Aymee
p.s. For those who know the truth, a funeral is just a new begining disguised as an end. For that spirit is given another chance to take on a new biosuit and therefore come one step closer to….THE LIGHT!
that is nice Joe, thanks for putting it in perspective. I will be with my special ed students and celebrating one of the girl’s birthday at the same time. I wasn’t alone, although for some reason I decided to be alone, I was wondering what caused me to do something like that., manifest a nice relationship and then just throw it away….is that resistant to change? we get what we want and the sabotage it, maybe?
Great ideas Joe! Today I am going to distribute free copies of my iLoveU image to heart patients and children in area hospitals! Wendy
Hey Joe, Fortunately, I don’t need the desperate Valentine list (been happily married for 9 years), but some of those are good ideas even for using WITH a valentine!
One of the things that I often credit for helping me find my wife was by using a great NLP technique… and it goes a little somethin’ like this:
1. Make a ‘values list’ (Top 5 to 10 things that are most important to you in a romantic partner…. make sure it’s not more than 10 things).
2. Then prioritize that list. This was waaay harder than I thought it would be… especially with the top 2 or 3!
3. Next I did a meditation to imagine clearly the woman that possessed all of my criteria in the exact order I had decided on.
4. This last one is the biggie: Decided to BECOME the person that I wanted (attraction factor at it’s best!).
And VOILA! within a month or so, Holley appeared and we’ve been together for almost 12 years (dated & got engaged 3 years prior to marrying).
Anyway, I thought some of your readers would be interested in this little, yet powerful technique that I swear by (the proof is in the puddin’).
May Cupid Be With You…
PS Say High to Nerissa, Your (Video)Queen!
Hey Joe! Great post. I’d just like to add that, as we’re all connected we’re never really alone. Lonliness is just an emotion, we can choose to feel it or choose to be grateful for all the love in the world. I know which way I’m going. Happy Valentines Day to yo all
x
🙂 Thanks for the options Joe!! Judy – am sorry about losing your husband, it is never easy to lose your best friend. The clown thought is cute.
I would add to the list – treat your self to a massage or something nice like that. AND look in the mirror and say, I Love You, I’m Sorry, Please Forgive and Thank You!!!! For each and everyone of us is Very Special On This Day!!!
Have a great day and Thanks for the reminder to be good to ourselves.
I am still happy. This is just a day with a heart attached to it. If you are lonely, then try never being married, getting flowers, or even told ‘I love you’ …none of these things not a single time in my life. Yes, I would love to have someone love me as I have loved unconditionally..but guess it is just not in the cards for me. This is why denial works sometimes. It takes away the pain of being alone. I believe people are meant to have partners. I am now 50 and maybe my partner is myself? Well, time to carry on and let’s all have a wonderful day..:wink:
P.S. Those who have loved and lost, you are SO fortunate! You have wonderful memories and the experience of true love! Maybe someday I’ll get to be one of the ‘lucky people’. 🙂 Happy Valentine’s Day!
it was a lonely and desperate Valentine’s Day for me until I read this. Thanks a billion man !
Thank you, Joe.
My sincerest condolances. Though I do have a partner, we are both in deep mourning.We are in the midst of major family upheavel and not able to see our 3 beautiful grand children. It seems as though their mom has gone nuts. I keep doing ho’oponopono,, but things seem worsse than ever. I know that change is necessary, but I am so concerned about them, we have been an integral part of their lives, and now nothing….
I’m sorry, I love you
Hi Joe: Let’s all count our blessings today and share unconditional love (we can all do it with or without a significant other). So, think LOVE.
Joe,
Sorry for your loss.
I am reading email on the laptop in bed with Stan the girl cat, age 17 1/2, who is going to be heading to kitty heaven later today. You might be pleased to know that every morning since we discovered her illness 3 weeks ago, she and I have listened to your “I’m sorry, thank you, I love you” recording. It seems to sooth both of us.
Every Valentine’s Day is different; that’s for sure! Good reminder to treasure what we have when we have it. It’s all temporary.
Love,
Honey
Lol! Joe, you make it seem so sad! To me, the fact that I’m not with someone who loves me the way I deserve just means I’m still learning to love myself the way I deserve. It’s me who sets the standard, right? So tonight, let’s take care of ourselves, and most of all be grateful for the attention.
Thank you. Love you! Perfect reminder … of life … and to find joy when it sometimes seems there isn’t any at the moment. If there isn’t any joy … make some!
Thanks, Joe.
I’d like to add one more — Be Open to a Love Surprise! You can find a message about 2 wonderful ones I had recently on my blog — you’ll find it on mywebsite.
Love,
Mandy
First I want to give my condolences to you and Nerissa, Joe…. so sorry.
Thank you for the post – I want to share this great idea with your blog readers – Go to (or give) a party! I will be going to a party today given by a single friend of mine, for all of her single gal friends – should be fun!
Joe, you are the only blog I make time to read! Great suggestions…here’s one more. If you want to be with your beloved NEXT Valentines Day, do what I did 10 years ago and manifest your soulmate. Learn how at http://www.soulmatekit.com
Wishing you BIG LOVE in the coming year.
This is the blog I posted on my web site today:
This was in my Joe Vitale’s (my mentor) blog today.
Joe’s comment: While you are celebrating Valentine’s Day alone or with a partner, Nerissa andIwill be attending a funeral. While the word “fun” is in the word “funeral,” it’s usually not. The reminder is to enjoy your life right now, with or without anyone else. Right now is the greatest gift of all. Your life is a blessing. Enjoy it.
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Enjoy each and every moment of every day. You’ll never get them back. Don’t be so busy you forget to enjoy the simple things in life. Keep everything in perspective and try to keep your stress level at a minimum. Stress is a killer!
I had a girl at work run up to me all stressed out. I said to her “Is the building burning down? Are your children in danger?” ……..she replied “No”…….so I said, “Then relax, I’ll help you solve your problem.” Controlling stress is part of having a strong mind body connection and living a long, health life!
Happy Valentine’s Day
PS. My daughter just received my Valentines Day surprise gift of a dozen roses today. My note said “To the one woman in my life I will always, always unconditionally love until the day I die. You’re everything to me. I love you. Dad” I try to tell my two children that I love them all the time so they know how much I love them and need them in my life. Tell your loved ones on a regular basis how much you love them. Never say to yourself, I should have let them know how much I loved them.
Joe,
First and foremost, I regret to learn of how you are spending your day… We must love as much as we can, while we can. I am sure that whoever it is, he or she was a great person and they will remain around in spirit. I wish you the best on this day.
I just wanted to take a moment to wish you a snazzyl valentines day as well! I already sent one to Ken Wilbur and Bill Harris and now you get one! Tada! Suzanne asked me to post this on your blog for you…
Also, I just wanted to applaud you on all the work you have done – you have made a great impact on our world. I’ve begun my own little journey as well and I enjoyed much of your spiritual marketing concepts, truly genius… And very applicable.
I’ll send you some of my work when I have it further along, but so far I’ve gotten some great, and mixed, reviews on the preface alone. I tend to write on another “level” and I am desperately trying to simplify it…(I like big words).
I’m not trying to “pitch” myself, but I’ve been working in design,
marketing, audio, and video for about a decade now so if you ever need help with anything, just ask… I’ve helped restore the Nazorean Essenes to modern day inter”nutting” and have given my talents to others and as they say, you receive as you so give… I have been blessed with some truly great friends.
You do have an incredible knack for ad copy…
Seriously though, have a blessed day Joe… Love you too buddy!
When are you launching your TV show, by the way… I have an incredible story I would love to share with you in regards to my own application of the law of attraction…
Very Truly Yours,
Gabriel Armstrong
http://www.videomarketingteam.com
Hey Joe,
Thanks for the list. I’m taking your advice and treating myself to some really GOOD chocolate.
Being by yourself does not have to be lonely or sad. Learn to be happy in your own company.
Another suggestion: offer to babysit for a young couple who could use some romance time on this day of love. The kids will cheer you and make you laugh.
Joe, you’re awesome!
I love you too,
Happy Valentines,
Stephen Martile
Personal Development Made Simple
http://www.stephenmartile.com
Here’s another one to add to the list. I love Valentine’s Day because it gives me another excuse to send myself flowers! I always have them delivered at work, and display them on my desk. It’s fun and brings a smile to my face for days!
Blessings to all
Anna B LoveJoy
Well, hello to All 106+++ MILLION MYSPACE awesome people of this Earth…did you know, if, just if, we were a Country, all 106Million of us, we would be ranked as the 11th largest….That my friends is truly amazing…So, to all of YOU, the Myspace country MEN and Women, I wish a blessed, prospering, abundantly healthy…. 14 Feb 2008, and that this day be the launching pad forward for each of you, to enjoy tomorrow, this month, this whole year of 2008, and beyond, by pursuing the awesome purpose, and extraordinary destiny that is within each of you…And thank you for being within this Generation…It is an honor to have you in this time, this season of Greatness filled people.
Thank you for creating and sharing this fun list of activities. I think it’s wonderful that you are working to help support and heal people on so many different levels.
Appreciatively,
Teresa
Offer free hugs to the lone people outside
Did it ever occur to anyone that maybe being alone isn’t so bad? Relationships are only fun in the beginning when you’re still into the other person, and can’t wait to see them again. After that, relationships are like shackles.
Get f*ck’s sake, pull your pathetic self-loathing selves together. Valentines is just another day.
The best thing to do while alone on valentine’s day: don’t give a shit, I didn’t, it worked great. Good day (apart from work)
Someone.
😉
thanks for the uplift.
aw joe thank you for the list.i had the lonliest valentine’s day and i think i need to change my thinking towards this day.i have always been bitter about it and have always called it fake and i have had nothing good to say about it.i now know why i am single every valentine’s day.now i know better.before i had this realization i dumped the only rose i received yesterday from an anonymous friend in a flower pot outside my workplace.i feel like shit now.
joe,i love and appreciate you and i feel honored having been introduced to you and the blessed teachers of the secret.i am not the same since watching it and i watch it every single day.thank you!
Hi All,
That Valentine Day
I bought 6 Cadbury chocolate with chasew, then I gave it to 6 men I care about in my office, even they are all already got married, they like nice brothers to me…
For others here who single and feeling lonely, pls contact, sharing & encourage each other, my yahoo ID : [email protected]
I’m like a person who normal and have every nice thing in life, but not a man…
hehehehe… any advise to attract souldmate, Joe?
Something the list is missing:
Go buy two bottles of your favorite hard alcoholic beverage and drink it. See how far you can get.
Lots of fun.
Hi Joe:cool:
About a week before Valentine’s Day, I had the thought that I may be alone. So I decided to choose to get a Valentine from someone using the law of attraction and start being thankful for it now. I met a friend I hadn’t seen in many months who invited me to a concert on Valentine’s Day, where I saw another friend. I received a box of chocolates from my son and his dad (estranged), and I recieved many kind text message replys from the texts I sent out. Plus, I got a e-card Valentine from a new friend online!
If you want to have a Valentine -Be a Valentine! And by all means Attract It!
Blessings,
Leslie